If you ever think you are too much, come sit here a minute.
Maybe you’ve spent years trying to take the edge off yourself. Lower the volume. Soften the laugh. Edit the story halfway through telling it in case you’re taking up too much space.
Because somewhere along the way, you learned that being noticeable was dangerous.
What If Your “Too Much” Is Actually Leadership?
What if some people have so much social anxiety that they’re relieved when someone else leads? Someone who breaks the silence. Someone who carries the energy so others can exhale.
What if you aren’t stealing focus at all? What if you’re holding the room together with vibes and bravery?
Being the life and soul of a group doesn’t mean you crave attention. It often means you’re generous with it.
Those Comments That Still Live Rent-Free
Maybe things people have said over the years still sting. Comments about other people that somehow felt aimed straight at you. Little digs that made you question yourself long after the conversation ended.
But here’s the half-feral truth: a lot of those comments were never about you.
They were someone else’s insecurity talking. Someone else’s fear of being seen. Someone else’s discomfort with confidence, joy, or noise.
And you accidentally carried it like it was yours.
You Were Never Meant to Be Smaller
You are not required to dull your edges. You do not owe anyone a quieter version of yourself. You don’t need to apologise for existing loudly.
You are allowed to take up space. You are allowed to be warm, expressive, intense, funny, emotional. You are allowed to be the person who goes first.
Maybe you’re not too much.
Maybe you’re just not for everyone. And that’s a feature, not a flaw.
Maybe you are an amazing human, exactly as you are.
